Monthly Archives: June 2011

The Beauty-Salvation Myth

Maybe you’ve seen the Dove Evolutions video before. The first time I watched it with a bunch of teenage girls, there was a split second of shocked silence at the end of the clip. Then outrage as they literally started to yell: ‘We’ve been lied to!’ All talking at once, they figured out that the images they had been comparing themselves to in magazines weren’t even real women.

The second video, 34x25x36, I saw on Jamie Smith’s blog. It’s a short film made in a mannequin factory. At the beginning, the designer says:

‘the ideal body doesn’t exist – WE make the ideal body.’

He later describes that the idea of a mannequin is to stir up adrenaline in the buyer to say, “hmmm… I could look like that.”

The designer goes on to talk about the evolution of mannequin production, and how it is a continuation of Renaissance French religious art, where a particular saint was fashioned out of wood or wax to help people envision what they might be like.

In a similar way, he says, ‘we replicate what the perfect girl is… you could see it as worshipping, giving people something to aim for.’

‘Do we worship perfect women?’ he asks.

He explains that in religion, the ideal to aim for is salvation, and again, asks an astute question:

‘What is our current salvation as a society?’

‘Oh, beauty is only skin deep,’ we say. But we consume these images every single day. ‘It’s playing with people’s minds of what their ideal is,’ says the mannequin designer.

Never have our minds been so screwed up in relation to what we look like.

Subconsciously, we are living the narrative that the ‘good life’ is looking like that girl, or being with that girl; that girl, who has been so enhanced and edited that she is literally unreal.  We are looking for salvation in something that doesn’t even exist.

I wonder what would have happened if the French religious iconographers would have taken seriously the command to ‘beware lest you act corruptly by making a carved image for yourselves, in the form of any figure, the likeness of male or female’ (Deut. 4:16). I wonder what would happen if we took it seriously?

The depth of the problem was underscored for me by my own reaction to 34x25x36. I am a rational, well-educated, grown woman. I know these images are unreal, and looking like them won’t make me happier or more fulfilled. I have a healthy relationship with my own appearance. And yet, honestly, one of the first things I thought when I saw this the film? ‘I wonder if we have a tape measure in the house? I wonder what my proportions are? How far away am I from the ideal woman? Do I measure up?”

And then I got mad.

WHO DECIDES ALL THIS ANYWAY?! Who decides what this ideal is? Who decides what the perfect proportions are, and what we think of as beautiful?

Our society’s current beauty-salvation myth is destroying us.  It causes women to wage war against their own bodies in order to live up to an impossible, unattainable ideal of perfection. It causes us to produce and consume in ways that are detrimental to the planet and its poorest inhabitants. It teaches us to worship idols and look for salvation somewhere it can never be found.

Perhaps its time we start teaching an alternative story about beauty?

Why I am not a theologian

I was the kind of person who could, using some plausible excuse, inflict on a person I cared for a wound that would never heal.

Haruki Murakami,
South of the Border, West of the Sun

These lines from a story have haunted me lately. They seem to ring true in so many ways. People do inflict wounds on people they care about. I know, I have done it. And doesn’t it sometimes feel like your wounds will never heal? Your heart is broken in the same place so often. You are in pieces, and don’t think those stress fractures inside can ever be knit together. You have stopped imagining a time when you will feel whole again. I know, I have felt that.

The despair in this story is tangible. But as I read it, I was reminded that this is not the only story I have read. I know other stories about other people, like this one:

The Spirit of the Sovereign LORD is on me,
because the LORD has anointed me
to proclaim good news to the poor.
He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted,
to proclaim freedom for the captives
and release from darkness for the prisoners,
to proclaim the year of the LORD’s favor
and the day of vengeance of our God,
to comfort all who mourn,
and provide for those who grieve in Zion—
to bestow on them a crown of beauty
instead of ashes,
the oil of joy
instead of mourning,
and a garment of praise
instead of a spirit of despair.
They will be called mighty oaks,
a planting of the LORD
for the display of his splendor.

They will rebuild the ancient ruins
and restore the places long devastated;
they will renew the ruined cities
that have been devastated for generations

Isaiah 61:1-4

This is why I’m not a theologian. I don’t have clever answers about God, or how the universe works. I am not skilled in theological debate and cannot answer questions greater minds than mine have grappled with in the past. I don’t know why bad things happen to good people, or why good things happen to bad people.

But I can tell stories…

I write to remember that there is more than one story. That you and me, we are not limited, forever destined to hurt people as we try in vain to stem the flow of blood from our own gaping wounds.

There are other stories, other authors, other narrators, other ways of seeing and being in the world. There are stories of healing and grace and forgiveness. Beauty does grow up out of ashes, joy does come in the morning. There is hope of a steadfast love that never ceases, never leaves or forsakes. There are stories that end well, where the people are comforted, the land is healed, the King returns for His bride and the Kingdom is restored.

There is more than one story. The choice is, which one do I read? Which one do I tell myself and the people around me? Which one is my story?

“And they overcame by the blood of the Lamb and the word of their testimony…”

Avoiding Forest Fires

‘I tell you, on that day of judgement people will give an account for every careless word they speak’ (Matthew 12:36).

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A match is struck. A tiny spark is carelessly dropped into the dry, dense undergrowth. In seconds the whole forest is ablaze, its rage consuming everything in its path. Helicopters fly overhead dumping gallon after gallon of water and days later the fire is finally out. The damage, however, is already done.

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